appreciated. He no longer answers the phone when I call, If he does, he is nasty and now my step son no longer calls either. more than 1 year ago. Completely withdrawn. Good luck, Carol. "People are always going to get offended by something," she said. I have scheduled an appointment with the Trust Attorney to see what my options are. Those are the people who keep us alive, not the drugs or the painkillers. So stand up for yourself, giving in isn't working. Her TikTok videos have been seen more than 2.7 million times and she has over 500k followers. I'm sorry to hear what your going through. I wont get to grow old with that guy I met at the altar 15 years ago. If he does need intense medical care perhaps have a chat to his. If he's mobile and can care for himself could you move in with your mother to give him time to think about what he's doing if he doesn't change well you'll have to think about yourself more.. Its a good one. "I wasn't trying to be funny, I was just trying to be myself," Riley told Insider. Normal life seems a very long time ago now ! It's not gonna to change.". Ask yourself. If youve been knocked down get up, dust yourself off, and get back in the arena. The idea for an Instagram page came from Riley's sister. He had lost a lot of weight, his hair and was having problems eating. How has your week been? So who knows when he will start the new course. Keep in touch. My husband is in shock that me just posting these videos got me to where I am. We were the kind of people who are here now, who talked and laughed all night. * To protect your identity do not use your full name. He went through a radical surgery, followed by a regimen of radiation, chemotherapy, and a clinical trial drug. Riley soon began started delivering monologues about her daily life. I haven't had any counselling but it's something I think Ineed to look into. All we can do is take things day by day and hope for the best. I really wish I could say something positive to you but I can't, because I share the same fears, anger, anxiety and stress that your feeling. Doing so prompted him to reciprocate. He is still in severe pain. I can only suggest this, but maybe you could talk to your own medical team and see what they suggest if they know him as well? In addition to being a hilarious wife and mother, Lisa Marie, who was born and raised in Brooklyn, lives on Staten Island. I really wish I could give you a big cuddle right now. As a husband, his mission is to defend his domestic haven from harm and upsets. Riley's approach to comedy is blunt, poking fun at the day-to-day life of a mom and caregiver. Im always grateful for every opportunity that comes my way. We are both trying to be up beat and positive but some days it is just so hard. Follow Makin Waves at Facebook. You cant take away the picture of him wrestling with our kids on the living floor or teaching them to swim. We are a team & we have far too many grandchildren to love & to spoil before we leave this earthly plain. Her husband has cancer, and is on his fourth round of chemo, with more bad days than good. We have had a real roller coaster of a week, but we have so much support from various cancer organisations which has been so welcome. NOW WATCH: Here's how to get LA's best underground barbecue, Why parents and grandparents across the US are getting vaccinated in spite of their hesitancy. It's so hard watching them getting weaker each day. I will never forget his response to my question the day before his 60th birthday. I do try to talk to himas I can relate where you say he doesn't want to talk about treatment etc, like I say to my partner- these aren't easy conversations to have but they are important as I I'mscared too, I'm never there when you speak to your consultant, I want to know what is going on to help and understand too- (as Covidhas made everything so difficult-scans being pushed back/not being allowed to be in the hospital with him). In later months my wife's blood figures weren't high enough for her treatment to go ahead and that was always so frustrating. How is his sickness ? There was definitely reminiscing about nights before kids. My husband was diagnosed with cancer in March last year and in September we were told it was incurable. Her tiktok videos have racked up over 2.7 million views and she has over 500k followers on her social media platforms. Lost, angry, afraid, confused, sad, even bewildered at how fast this has changed our lives. I chatted with Lisa Marie to preview her April 2 hop across the Arthur Kill to perform at the URSB Carteret Performing Arts & Events Center. But the fact remains that it was the shared experience of my husbands illness that my marriage relationship was revitalized. My kids didnt know who you were. Their life changed in that instant. Im all about family and home life so I like to put it in funny context so people can share similar experiences. We were married only 8 months ago and my husband had his cancer diagnosis six weeks later. I can't do much to help my husband, other than be there for him. No doubt stress is a factor, however he's not even giving himself a chance. 5. How did you find hilarious mommy on Facebook? Without them, what would I make fun of? Depression, fatigue, nausea, erectile dysfunction, vaginal dryness, and other physical or emotional challenges may lower sex drive or make intercourse difficult or painful. I hope all is well with you and your husband, susan hesselgesser During the outbreak of COVID-19, One Funny Mother Dena Blizzard resorted to Facebook Live to keep in touch with her audience of moms and wine aficionados. But through it all and in the midst of a pandemic Riley has kept her sense of humor, and helped other people laugh too. 2023 BDG Media, Inc. All rights reserved. My husband was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer last July, and that his best option would be to have a whipples procedure as soon as possible. Hang in there, believe in you. It gave me 60 seconds to just take my mind off my terrible reality and give us some time to laugh. We spent the morning talking about motherhood and why Shlesinger says "a little bit of grace and a conversation would go a long way.". I am angry he thinks that would make me happy. She posts videos about the ridiculousness of day-to-day life as a mom and caregiver. Im at a point where the sadness has turned to anger. I walked in this same bar the other day to pick up sushi takeout, but I left instead with a memory of fun times so thick and heavy I could literally taste the sugar off the rim of those blue martinis I drank that night. Why would I when I loved him so much. And then there was someone who laughed so hard she peed her pants but still didnt want to leave. I just take each day at a timeand gratefully accept every offer of help given. We are now waiting for an MRI this Saturday and a colonoscopy next Monday in order to find out how far it has spread but although I am trying very hard to be upbeat,I am not very optimistic as he is so so weak and that's even before we started any treatment yet He had to take some iron tablets last week which upset his tummy even more and now that these have stopped (had to stop because of the colonoscopy next week) he was sick last night and had a terrible night. He's had two courses of chemotherapy which haven't worked. I've had a sister with dementure .. where yes she was angry at times .. and it wasn't her , it was the dementure but wer a big strong family that held everyone up .. How you can take that day after day , my heart goes out to you this covid makes things even harder as your probly stuck there 24 / 7 .. with no respite .. if it was me, I'd leave the room he's in, every time he " lost it" if not go all together please look after you too these replys understand how hard it must be .. talk to McMillan .. but don't feel guilty if you have to go what a sad sad situation You don't have to put up with this especially in such a young marriage - you are allowed to put yourself first. He joked about my being late everywhere. Spousal relationships should come first. Which brings us to the next point. I hope they manage to get the sickness under control for him. One subsequent TikTok video went viral (5M views) and now she's helping a combined 500K followers across both platforms laugh their way through the "current s%#t show" of COVID as she fights to do anything besides cave into cancer in front of her husband and three kids. Its been a long battle, I have no words. The he kind of pursued things further and in 2018 we started going out together as partners. was offered. I've read everyone's comments and I honestly honestly feel for every single one of you. A Christmas post about her husband's fourth round of chemo drew over 3,000 comments. Thank you for your kind reply, keep in touch Paddock, Hi Paddock, I'm so glad to hear from you and that your okay. When her husband was diagnosed with cancer, her sister thought starting an Instagram account might give Riley an outlet. Like you I dread every day because it's all about the cancer, everything revolves around the bloody cancer. The turning point in our relationship came after a long day of chemotherapy and radiation, when my husband collapsed in a chair in our living room, completely and utterly exhausted. We are people who do hospital stays, doctors appointments, and chemo treatments. We are heartbroken., A post shared by Lisa Marie Riley (@onefunnylisamarie). But in this time of despair, we have found there are countless people who hope for us because our hope is almost gone. I want to shout out, I am not the only one! I don't know what to do, I just feel helpless We have no children and no family nearby (he hasn't got any family at all except his step-dad who is 82 years old,and my family is abroad). more than 2 years ago, I dont know my husband anymore. My husband is also 53 and we've been married 33 years. I had the pleasure of performing at St. George Theater on Feb. 5, and it was a beautiful turnout. He never did. He is now staying in a hospice most nights, to have his pain managed, to be fed through a nasal tube, which isnot going well. doctor for support, Also consider wether he needs to speak to his doctor about how he is feeling if he is feeling low/depressed. Riley and her husband have three children. I hate that I dont have the courage to tell them everything just yet. She is followed by over 500k fans and her tiktok videos have amassed over 2.7 million views! I have made him move out, and move into his brothers with him for his upcoming treatments and surgery. It's such a worry financially as well. So, naturally, this affects how a Cancer man treats his wife. That sobering statistic put everyday annoyances in perspective. We have a good marriage but my husband has withdrawn, though his cancer diagnosis is positive he is currently going thru chemo and for a few weeks has a catheter he hates. We both love each other tremendously. The ENT ordered a CT scan just to see IF anything was "lurking" that she had not seen before. Oh, do I hate you for taking that one. We abandoned our old patterns of blaming and misunderstanding. Cheryl summers We spent 5 days in the hospital getting used to the new plastic in my throat & learning how to clean a trach. "A lot of people are thinking it but they won't say it. He seemed to age 10 years in 10 months. Dad has terminal bladder cancer - cant eat/ How can I support and look after my family. Would you rather do a cooking show, a comedy show or both? Lisa Marie Riley started her Instagram page in 2019 after her husband's cancer diagnosis. 3. If there's one thing we all need right now it's laughter.It is not the critic who counts. Stay up to date with what you want to know. Have you sold out the St. George Theater yet? By subscribing to this BDG newsletter, you agree to our. It brought it all back. For the first time in a long time, maybe ever, I was putting my husband first. Although I have told a couple of work colleagues and they are being very nice to me. Before long, strangers started following along. Hearing those words, I made an instantaneous decision to become the best caregiver possible. I appreciated the article because it placed communication as "Number One" on the important list. If I say I'm in need of a walk with the dog on my own I'm neglecting him. Instead of worrying, and pushing, trying to convince everyone that we are one way or another (both as a character and in life), we can just live with the thought that we are enough. Now we are just waiting for the tests and the results probably around a week later in February. My spouses diagnosis made me realize just how much I loved him. Does he get medical help? For almost 9 years now, it is a one sided propositionExtraordinarily draining physically, mentally and emotionally with no outlet or relief. Since then he has been dismissive and cruell and downright nasty. Lisa Marie Riley started her Instagram page in 2019 after her husband's cancer diagnosis. Her second book, All Things Aside, will be released in the fall. I can't begin to compute that. That was acceptable. During the outbreak of COVID-19, One Funny Mother Dena Blizzard resorted to Facebook Live to keep in touch with her audience of moms and wine aficionados.